A cute pic of the babe because I can't help myself. It's hard to believe that sitting, crawling, and first teeth are around the corner! It's been over four months since Daphne was born -- wasn't it just yesterday?!
Today I picked up a couple of the books you recommended and look forward to reading them:
How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
I'll start with these and may look for others you suggested as well. I actually did read the spirited child book once long ago (4 years ago! seems like a long time) but don't remember much of what it says.
It's amazing how different my two are in temperament. Maia has been super intense from the minute she was born. And I suppose it's early to say with Daphne, but so far she has been about as mellow as a baby can get (except during car rides, which she generally hates). It's nice to have a little balance in the family.